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Question:
What exactly is sex?
“Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.” (1 Corinthians 6:15-17)
Sex has been wrongly defined. The world is at war with this generation’s perception of what intimacy really looks like. Is Hollywood right? Is sex a steamy one night stand with no real consequence? Maybe sex is just a physical activity—you hook up with whoever you find attractive and fulfill your desires. While individuals seem more and more prone to model their lives and sexuality after the latest hit shows, we’ve found a better way. Though many in the church want to shy away from dealing with the subject of sexuality, the Bible fearlessly and relentlessly gives clear direction on the matter. If we want to see a generation embrace biblical purity, we must boldly stand behind biblical principles. Here are the four ways we define sex:
1. Sex is a spiritual matter.
We cannot ignore the scriptures’ spiritual emphasis on sex. Sex, biblically, changes the way God, who is spirit, looks at us. That’s one reason that sex is no small issue in His eyes. The good news is that even if you’ve completely blown it in this area, we serve the God of restoration. His redemptive power is strong enough to free you from any past mistakes.
2. Sex is a physical matter.
This one shouldn’t be too hard to understand. The old saying is true—“It takes two to tango”! The physical aspect is the most enticing part of the experience for most people. But sex it is not a mere physical act. There is far more to it. Even the physical experience is a sacred moment. Because sex is sacred, we were never meant to approach it casually. We were not meant to share this experience with just anybody at anytime. It was meant for one man and one woman in the bonds of marriage. Sex is sacred to God, so it should be sacred to us.
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3. Sex is an emotional matter.
Unfortunately, many have figured this out as a devastating afterthought. We’ve heard ample stories of individuals that got caught up in the moment, gave themselves away, and then found their lives in an emotional wreck shortly after. Why? Because what you do lasts far beyond the moment you do it in. Sex does not just make you vulnerable physically, but emotionally as well. When someone has physical access to our bodies they also have access to our emotions. This, yet again, proves why sex was never meant to happen outside of marriage. You must guard yourself and make purity a chief aim in your life.
4. Sex is a binding matter.
For married couples, the bond that is formed through sexual intimacy is remarkable. You truly share something with your spouse that is shared with no one else. While this bond is profound inside of marriage, it is devastating outside of marriage. Let’s say someone reading this has messed up sexually. You gave yourself to someone outside of marriage, but later surrendered to God. You repented and asked for forgiveness, yet for some reason, you can’t escape the guilt of your past. You relive the mistakes you’ve made in your mind over and over, even though you’ve genuinely repented. The reason for this is simply because, though God has forgiven you, the binding affects of sex outside of marriage are still attached to your life. For full deliverance from the pain and control of your past, we highly recommend that you seek help from your pastor or a trusted spiritual leader. You are not without hope, and God wants you to walk in complete freedom!
We challenge you to go back to the Bible. Open it up and see what it says. If you do not embrace God’s definition of sexuality and purity, you will fall prey to the world’s definition. Be proactive, be intentional, and let’s start a revolution in the realm of purity!
Caleb and Ali live in East Tennessee where they serve at The Lift Church. With boldness and conviction, their deepest desire is to see the church revived and the world awakened. Learn more about The Lift by visiting theliftchurch.tv.
