What Clothes Are Appropriate To Wear To Impress Someone?
The way you dress speaks volumes about you. Our entire lives, we have heard, “You can’t judge a book by its cover.” This old saying holds significant truth in many arenas of life. However, dating is not one of them.
We want to challenge you to do the exact opposite. People are visual. Our first impression is nearly always based upon what we see. Because of this reality, the way we dress and how we present ourselves is unbelievably important.
Why Are You Attracting What You Are Attracting?
A few years ago, a girl came to us seeking relationship advice. She could not understand why every guy she dated ultimately had one agenda: sex. Heartbroken, she said, “Why can’t I just find someone who loves me for who I am without wanting my body?”
Sadly, this girl came from a broken home, had poor examples of morality, and was simply modeling what had been modeled to her. There was one primary reason she could not get a man of integrity to show interest in her: Her apparel was attracting the wrong crowd. While this girl genuinely had a heart of gold, her choice in clothing conveyed a much different message.
“Daisy Dukes” and revealing tops may catch the attention of a good man, but it will not keep it. Why? Because a person of integrity resists any opportunity that could potentially cost them their purity.
A person of integrity resists any opportunity that could potentially cost them their purity. Share on XEver heard the phrase: “Dress the part”? It means to dress appropriately for the occasion. That’s the key. If you want to attract someone of integrity and purity, then dress for that.
You must know these three key principles when it comes to the dating standard on dress:
1. Modest really is hottest.
For too long, modesty has had a bad rap. It is not boring or mediocre—nor is it anti-fashion. If your choice of clothing is terrible, it’s not because of modesty; it’s because of you. Men, what does your outfit say about you? Find your style and wear it with respect. Ladies, show the world that beauty does not negate clothing. True beauty does not have to show off skin. A revealing outfit is simply the result of an inward cry for attention. You are not cheap eye-candy. You are fearfully and wonderfully made!
2. If they do not value themselves, they will not value you.
We have all been caught off guard by someone in revealing attire. How do you respond to this kind of sexual appeal?
The deal seems flattering upfront. The pedal is to the floor, but before long you’ll realize this vehicle has no brakes. It is certain to crash.
There is only one reason people dress to appeal to others’ sexual appetite: They value someone else’s opinion more than they value the opinion they have of themselves. Sadly, this typically stems from past hurts and low self-esteem. Anyone who does not value their purity will not value yours either.
3. If everyone else is doing it, then you probably shouldn’t be.
Compromise has been excused far too many times by the logic of, “If everyone else is doing it, then it must be ok.”
The value of something is often based upon its rarity. Do you want to be significant in a sexualized generation? Be unique, don’t follow the crowd.
Men, stop trying to justify why it is ok to strut your stuff. Ladies, swimming pools are not an excuse to get undressed in public.
If you are going to do what everyone else does, you are going to get what everyone else gets. You will have to settle for mediocrity when you were made for so much more.
In 2 Corinthians 6, Paul instructs the Church to come out from among the world and be separate. What better place to practice this command than in the realm of dating and purity? Let’s go for it!
Set A New Standard
If we choose to set a standard now, generations to come can avoid the struggles that we have had to endure. We can be the generation that turns the tide. The current social norm could become obsolete in our lifetime if we will take a stand!
This Blog is an excerpt from the book The Rules of Romance Before Marriage
Caleb and Ali live in East Tennessee where they serve at The Lift Church. With boldness and conviction, their deepest desire is to see the church revived and the world awakened. Learn more about The Lift by visiting theliftchurch.tv.
