Question:
Is It Ok For A Girl To Ask A Guy Out?
It seems as though our society is abandoning anything and everything that deals with moral excellence. While some things in age’s past, were simply a matter of preference, other things were strong, healthy practices that every society would benefit from should they adhere to them.
One of these things is the practice of chivalry. Since our generation has neglected this practice, our guess is that some of you may not even know what chivalry means. So, check it out. By definition, to be chivalrous is:
“to behave in an honorable and polite way, especially toward women.”
In a society where it is becoming more and more socially acceptable for a lady to take the initiative, we want to cut against the grain. We believe this question has far more to do with the condition of our culture than it does with dating.
The restoration of chivalry among men is imperative. So, ladies, we’ve got a couple of questions you should consider when contemplating whether or not you should ask him out:
1. If I have to chase him, is he really worth my time?
We know there are exceptions to the rule, but we believe that it should not be the norm for ladies to do the chasing.
Let me ask, do you tend to take better care of what has been given to you or what you have purchased? I can still remember when my parents gave me my first cell phone. I took such good care of that thing . . . for a few weeks, at least. Then, I steadily became more and more casual with it, eventually breaking it because of my carelessness.
Fast forward a couple of years. I got a job, and my phone and phone bill were then my responsibility. Guess how I handled that phone when I was the one making the payments? With care and protection? You bet!
While you are not a product that’s up for sale, you are a woman who is worth the energy and effort a good man will put forth to get you. Our first piece of advice is that you refrain from chasing him; let him run after you. A man who will not chase you before marriage will never chase you after marriage.
Think about it. When you consider the longevity of relationships from the past, you can clearly see that we are missing something they had: Marriages lasted and families were strong. Sadly, that has become a rare find in our day.
This demands that we stop to consider the missing link. Could it be that relationships were stronger in the past because men were expected to take the initiative? To regain quality relationships, we must once again embrace the principles of chivalry. If you want to build something that’s going to last, history proves that it is most effective when he makes the first move.
To regain quality relationships, we must once again embrace the principles of chivalry. Share on X2. Am I playing too hard to get?
When I was looking to find Ali’s engagement ring, I must have driven the jeweler crazy. I am certain I asked to see at least a thousand rings. To be quite honest, I even thought to myself, “They could avoid me asking to see a different ring every thirty seconds if they’d just put them outside of the glass.” I know I must have been annoying them.
Why do they keep those rings locked up behind the glass counters anyway? Because things of great value aren’t easily accessible.
Ladies, you don’t need to be within everybody’s reach.
Now, with that being said, there is another revelation you must get. You know how those guys who flirt with you tend to act like they’ve got it all together? Most of that is a cover up. He acts cool in front of you, but you really intimidate him. While you should “play hard to get,” you shouldn’t make it impossible for him. You’ve already got him wiping sweat from his brow every time you turn around.
When someone asks to see a ring at the jewelry store, they do not ignore them simply to make them ask a few more times. That would be just wrong.
When you notice that a guy you like is inquiring to know more about you, don’t keep hiding. Ultimately, that ring wasn’t made to be behind glass; it was made to be on a hand. Give him hints and drop some signals. Now, just a side note: You’ll have to be patient while he catches on. Guys speak a totally different language than girls. If you are really interested in him, as an act of courtesy, find subtle ways to let him know that you’re not going to humiliate him if he pursues you.
Things of great value aren’t easily accessible. Share on XWe know these principles make guys a little nervous. Why? Because it raises the bar. Quite frankly, we don’t need any more men running around who devalue women.
Ladies, you deserve the best! You deserve a guy who will pursue you and treat you right. Don’t settle for anything less.
Men, it’s time to step it up!
THIS BLOG IS AN EXCERPT FROM THE RULES OF ROMANCE BEFORE MARRIAGE
Caleb and Ali live in East Tennessee where they serve at The Lift Church. With boldness and conviction, their deepest desire is to see the church revived and the world awakened. Learn more about The Lift by visiting theliftchurch.tv.
